It’s morning. Time to start your day. But rather than looking forward to the day ahead, you don’t feel like getting up and facing it.
We all experience this feeling of emptiness from time to time and it is rather difficult to shrug it off.
Many of us resort to binge eating, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, gambling to numb ourselves out but the problem is that all these things address the symptoms of inner emptiness, not the cause.
The Cause Of Inner Emptiness
Do we feel empty because others don’t treat us the way we think they should? Or this world altogether is not a nice place and people that inhabit it are not nice either.
We feel empty not because the people we meet are vain and empty but because we are prone to self-loathing. We judge ourselves, ignore our feelings, and stay in our heads. Whenever the world gets too much to handle, we numb ourselves through substance abuse. We blame others for our feelings.
Our egos mislead us, fill us with false pointers regarding who we are. We see our self as not good enough, selfish, inadequate, bad, unlovable. What we do, what we believe comes from the feeling that we are intrinsically flawed.
Ways to Fill Your Emptiness
Mindfulness means being aware of your feelings and thoughts in the present moment without judging anything. Several studies have shown mindfulness to reduce stress and anxiety.
Here are a few things you can do to be mindful:
Set an intention. It could be something like, “Be mindful all day long to be peaceful.” Post it where you can see it often.
In the morning, set aside 5 to 10 minutes and sit quietly. Pay attention to your body, your surroundings, your breath.
Before going to bed, have a 2-minute review. See if you managed to stay with your intention. What distracted you?
Pursue Goals and Interests that Matter
In our life, we see things buzz by, morning turning to night, and before shutting our eyes off if we look back on the day, most of us will realize that the day was very much like yesterday.
You can go through life doing what you have been told, what is practical, or set some time out for working toward your goals and interests.
What makes life worthwhile is not the daily rut but doing what makes you feel good. Liked to paint when you were a kid? It is never too late to start again.
We often let responsibilities and commitments take up our time, sometimes more than needed. Take some time out for your interests and you will begin to smile more and fret less.
Take Care of Yourself
There’s nothing more important than our good health – that’s our principal capital asset – Arlen Specter
“Oh, I never get enough time to exercise. With my job and all, it really gets pressing to find time out for myself.”
You might have heard people say something along these lines when they know very well that their health needs attention but can’t seem to do anything about it.
Well, it boils down to self-discipline. Nothing more, nothing less.
Exercise, eat healthy food, take proper rest, and relax. Create a daily routine that helps you live a meaningful life. When you treat your body well, you feel positive and motivated.
Start a Journal
Writing a journal can help you look inside yourselves and understand your feelings of emptiness. Choose a comfortable place and write for about 20 minutes each day.
You can write about how you are feeling, what you are thinking, or even use a prompt.
Some helpful prompts can be:
When did you notice the feeling of emptiness? For how long it has plagued you?
What emotions do you come up against when you are feeling empty?
Do you happen to feel empty during certain times or places?
What kind of thoughts do you experience when you feel empty?
Many people continue to discover the benefits of meditation. From reducing anxiety to promoting emotional health, the practice of meditation can also help you get in touch with and understand your feelings of emptiness better.
Research has shown that 30 minutes of meditation each day can help enhance self-awareness and lengthen attention span. To get started, sit in a quiet place, shut your eyes, and focus on your breathing. Ask the following questions to understand your emptiness.
Do you sense or feel a lack of clarity, worthiness, understanding, peace? Accept the feelings you are experiencing.
Consider your feelings of emptiness. Does it rake up memories from the past? What emotions do you experience?
Today, decide to beat your emptiness, that numb grind, and keep that spark for life alive. I am very sure you are capable enough to live the life you dreamt of.
Live intentionally and love yourself.