Who does not like things to get better, their lives to get better? But the secret lies in something that we all resist with our might – Change. Though we know that the change is inevitable yet we still cling to our old habits because they make us feel safe.
Everywhere you go, you hear people talk about motivation. How they are going to lose weight, quit smoking, going to eat healthy. And few weeks into their new resolutions, what do most people end up saying, ‘I don’t get enough time. I don’t feel motivated enough.’
During my school days, it was a popular idiom, but for years I could not understand what it meant, ‘All that glitters is not gold.’ Maybe because I had not seen much gold by then!
I mean seriously. This guy has made it in life. Last time I saw him on Facebook, he had bought a new shiny car, was working as a corporate hotshot, and was blessed with a baby boy just a week ago. If this is not a perfect life, what else is?
We all get our share of rejections. When we try really hard for something and end up running into a wall, we are tempted to give up and slink off.
Worst are the emotions that take over us – disappointment, embarrassment and a bruised ego.
How have things changed. When you were a kid, life was all about joy, simplicity, and having unadulterated fun. Then we grew up, got college degrees, and landed up with jobs.
You have something important to finish. Maybe a work assignment, a household chore you have been avoiding for long, or just getting your room clean.
And just as you are about to get up and get going, you are reminded of something else. Completely unrelated.
While each of one of us is guilty of overthinking things on and off, some people can’t seem to stop the constant barrage of thoughts. The commotion inside them includes two destructive thought patterns – worrying and ruminating.
What’s holding you back?
Fear of putting yourself out there in public. Fear of being judged. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of choosing the wrong path.
It is a recent phenomenon, you may also agree.
During my last metro ride, which I took after a gap of two years, I realised that people had found something new to do: staring into their mobile screens. Earlier it used to be staring at other people or into the far unknown.