Learning to trust a person can be a different experience for many of us. For some, it just happens naturally while for others it is difficult to let their guards down.
It is easy to understand why many people take their time to trust someone. Trusting the wrong person can result in being taken advantage of, abusive relationships, financial losses, and several undesirable outcomes.
So, how can you determine if the person is worth trusting?
Here are 8 signs to help you decide if a person truly deserves your trust.
They Uphold Commitments
Trustworthy people try their best to show up to work or a social commitment on time because they value everyone else’s time. They understand being late or canceling plans at the last minute inconveniences others.
If the person has a tendency to show up late and does not call to let you know they are running late, or fails to show up altogether, these may be the signs you cannot trust that person to uphold their commitments, little or big.
They Treat Others Well
Maybe the person you are willing to trust manages to keep interactions with you fine, but you need to observe how they treat others. Keeping up the facade during every interaction is not easy and is likely to slip.
Notice how they talk about others, how they interact with others. Do they gossip about colleagues behind their backs? Treat the waiter at a restaurant badly?
Trustworthy people don’t wear masks or pretend to be someone else just to impress.
They are Compassionate and Humble
Common traits that demonstrate a person’s trustworthiness are compassion and humility.
They can think of others, understand their feelings, and don’t consider themselves being more important than others. Can you imagine a narcissist being ever bothered about you? They already have so much to do; think and dream about themselves!
Those who are more outwardly focused are less likely to create hurdles in your tracks or manipulate you to satisfy their whims or needs.
They Confide in You
Did anyone come up to you to confide about their problems? Was it personal?
If someone confides in you, it means that the person is OK with sharing details that expose their faults. They are not scared to show that they are vulnerable.
When someone confides in you, it means that the person trusts you and you can trust them and be open with them.
They Don’t Gossip
Trustworthy individuals refrain from making assumptions about anyone. Rather than getting swayed by the person’s perceived image or what others say, they prefer getting information from the person itself.
They avoid rumors because they understand that rumors breed negativity and can bring people down. Their language is respectful and empowering, and they put people ahead of materialistic stuff.
They are Consistent
Being consistent is an intrinsic trait of trustworthy individuals. They use the same language and behavior in different situations, with different people.
They exercise self-control to maintain character and walk the talk. Doing what they promised to is a crucial part of who they are. They don’t just back out.
What they tell you is what they will tell others. No pretense, no whims.
Those who have something to hide or are faking it are more likely to display some signs of anxiety, such as unsettled body language.
If the person seems naturally confident, it is likely they have nothing to hide and are being honest with you.
Interacting with such people, makes you feel at ease and calm because you are likely to end up picking their positive cues.
They Value Truth
Truth is so rare that it is delightful to tell it – Emily Dickinson
Telling the truth happens to be a hallmark of trustworthy people. They don’t lie or fudge information to serve their self-interest.
Even when they know that giving up information can put their reputation at risk or create conflicts, they stick to their words. They believe that empathy and communication are the right tools to defuse any conflict or misunderstanding.
Though we tend to trust our ‘gut feeling’ about whom to trust, it can also get us into trouble sometimes. I am not saying that we ignore our emotions, but also exercise restraint so that we don’t get caught up in them and fail to see things as they are.
The next time you are a little dicey about whether to trust a person or not, I am sure these tips will help you identify what kind of person you are dealing with.
What makes you trust or distrust a person? Share in the comments below.