Who does not like things to get better, their lives to get better? But the secret lies in something that we all resist with our might – Change.
Though we know that the change is inevitable, we still cling to our old habits because they make us feel safe. Change feels scary and unpredictable. And all of us seek comfort. Don’t we?
Ok, think about one thing that feels important to you, a priority. Is it the same it was 10 years ago? I definitely think it isn’t. You are a different person now and your priorities have also changed over time.
So, change will come within and around us, whether we like it or not. It’s a common factor in the universal equation of life. But we refuse to accept it and prefer set ways, habits, and don’t want to try anything new.
Let’s discuss few ideas that can bring in a positive change and make you a better version of yourself..
Learn Something New
Did new things and objects stump you when you were a kid? Did you resist new experiences? As children, we are not surprised when we encounter something new. As we grow older, we tend to become risk averse and stick with what we know.
Why? Because it is rather easier to keep doing what we are good at. ‘It took me years to get good at this. I don’t want to try something new and fail. Not now.’ It is understandable since taking risks means more chance of failure.
But, try opening yourselves up to new things. When you do this, you will learn something new about yourselves, an aspect you did not know existed with in you. Loved photography? Never too late to resume.
Initiate a change. It will create further possibilities for favorable changes in your life.
Observe Your Patterns
Rather being critical of yourself when you realize you’re procrastinating, or indulging in an unhealthy behavior, observe yourself.
For example, the next time you are feeling relaxed, observe how there is no muscle tension in your body, how you breath calmly.
Similarly, whenever you feel frustrated, or resentful observe yourself as a third party. Study yourself, how you react to situations. This will help you become self-aware and open up possibilities to regulating your emotions. Remember that each thought carries energy and that is why negative thoughts drain our energy and morale.
Sifting through TV channels was the mindless pastime of years gone by. Now, it’s scrolling through news feeds.
Limit your scroll time each day. Try browser installations that give you a set amount of time to spend on a website before blocking access, or apps that count how many times you open social media apps.
You don’t have to delete these apps, but you should be mindful that you’re not spending multiple hours a day effectively doing nothing.
Mindfully Create Your Sphere of Influence
We learn from our surroundings, people around us. Don’t we? The people we spend the most time with guide our decisions, our actions subconsciously. But in addition, what we put in our minds also has an effect on us. What we read in newspapers, on our social media feed, people we follow online all take up their little spaces in our mind. Evaluate the input. Has it been making you over cynical and judgemental?
Also keep your home and work space decluttered. If your environment is messy, it gets difficult to think clearly.
All these changes may seem like non-consequential at first, but they will make you see that you had been ignoring things that make everyday life beautiful.
Be Less Reactive
It’s a habit so many people have. Actually there are two: Making assumptions and jumping to conclusions. How we love them. Like our day wouldn’t feel complete without exercising this universal right.
But doing it only drains our mental energy and we get worked up for no reason. If something is bothering you, a negative thought or some nasty comment, understand that getting upset or enraged is only going to hurt you.
Before you react, question yourself. Is this going to serve anyone? A lot has been said about responding over reacting but it actually works. Practice taking a micro-pause between a stimulus and response. One long breath. It works like a charm.
The advice most often given but least practiced. People at the receiving end of such advice roll their eyes and quickly begin to search for an excuse to change the topic or leave the room!
Exercise is healthy but how will it change my life?
It makes you feel better about yourself – leading you to make other positive changes.
It reaffirms the positive thinking habit – thinking positive will help you sustain exercise.
It eases stress and gives you time to declutter and refocus —leading to better mental and emotional well-being.
It helps with creativity. Don’t ask me to prove it. I can say that my best ideas come when I exercise.
Change Your Routine
I am admittedly a creature of habit. I love my routine and even after a wonderful vacation, have a sense of longing to “get back to normal routine.”
For most days, we follow a certain routine that is built around things we do everyday. A routine helps us plan our days but once in a while a change is welcome. Doing same thing over and over does get monotonous. So give your routine a little makeover and it does not mean making drastic changes.
You can take a different route home to work, try a new store for grocery shopping, listen to different music…
Eliminate the Non-essential
First, recognize the essential — the things that are most important to you, that you love the most. Then get rid of everything else. This will leave you with room to focus on the essential.
This works with anything under the sun — with your life in
general, with work projects, emails, routine tasks, and other communication.
This will change your life because it will help focus on building the life you want.
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